Repeating the Same Mistakes

Different people + same mistakes = similar result

The only constant about life is change. We constantly have to improve ourselves if we want to get anywhere in life and one area where we have to be careful of is in our friendships/relationships.

If you lost a couple of relationships due to cheating … it may be a good idea to change that in an attempt to have a successful relationship (which, I believe, should be the goal).

We don’t grow from habits, it’s doing different things that help us grow. Try different things, learn and move forward. There’s so many mistakes to choose from!

Feelings are Focus Related

Have you ever heard of the term “Find your happy place” or “focus on the good side of things” ?

Feelings can be controlled, it’s a matter of changing your focus. If you keep thinking about past break-ups, your feelings will match the experience. On the other hand, if you keep thinking about how much fun you had swimming that one time, or you will have in the future, the feelings will also match.

What are your thoughts?

Two Life Paths

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked own one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth.

Then took the other as just as fair
And having perhaps the better claim
Because it was grassy and wanted wear
Though as for that, the passing there
Had worn them really about the same.

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet, knowing how way leads onto way
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence
Two roads diverged in a wood
And I took the one less traveled by
And that has made all the difference.

-Robert Frost, The Road Not Taken

Too Much to Think About

Some of you may have noticed that I missed a couple of blogging days. All I’ve been reading, in the past couple weeks, is the bible.
While there’s a lot to talk about on the matter, there’s also a lot to think about and right now I’m just trying to figure out the scriptures.
Fear not my friends, more is coming.

On another note, feel free to log in to my Facebook to see pictures/video of my recent adventures with some amazing friends! :)

No FEAR

I remember having T-Shirt with the “No FEAR” logo on it. It’s one thing to say it and another to feel it.

The worse thing that can happen to you is death. Death shouldn’t be feared but embraced as a natural part of life. Once you come in peace with this truth, a great deal of your fears and worries goes away. What’s left are either life worries which also include the fear of loosing people you love.

Life is meant to be lived on the edges with some adrenaline rushes here and there.

Connecting through Experiences

It’s been a while since I did anything with my cousins and this week-end I decided to take both of them to climb the highest peak in the Atlantic provinces (Mt. Carleton, see Facebook page for pictures/videos).

In the beginning, I felt a bit disconnected from them but it didn’t take long for that connection to grow back. Hard work, sweat and tears is what brought us back together.

If you’re going through the motion with your relationship, organize a trip that will provide the same experience. Tough time seems to help create memories that turns to unforgettable memories.

I totally recommend Mt. Carleton. The climb was awesome and the reward felt great, worth the share with those special someone of yours.

You Still Love your Partner?

"If you really love something set it free. If it comes back it's yours, if not it wasn't meant to be." - Unknown

If you’re in a situation where your partner doesn’t love you and want to call it quit, agree to it rather than be in a position where you become the “needy” type.

Understand this, even if you are to stick around, they already have a mindset on the person they think you are. There was probably some arguments in an attempt to change you but nothing changed. If you do decide to change at the breakup point, it will require more work because your partner doesn’t believe you can anymore. Be sure to ask what to focus on.

For a relationship to work, both need to understand that life isn’t about finding the perfect person but learning to love an imperfect person perfectly.

Do your Best and Let the Rest Take Care of Itself

“You can’t stop fate; you can only discover it” -Unknown

They’re things you can’t stop from happening no matter how hard you try. The thing is you don’t know what those things are which means you should always be giving your best.

There’s nothing worse than having something happen to you and feel like “you could of done more”. Yes it would probably have happened regardless but wouldn’t it be nice to be able to tell yourself “I gave it my all” rather than feeling you still had some bullets in your gun?

You have one chance to show the world all that you’ve got. Don’t do things half asses, keep moving forward.

Learning Vs Understanding

“When you’re young; you learn. When you’re older; you understand.” -Unknown

You can read all the books in the world, you may not be able to understand the meaning of all of them until you experience it in your life.
Should you not read? Absolutely not, everyone should read to keep their mind sharp and ready to face daily problems. A book, from someone else’s experience, can improve your life.

What book are you currently reading?

Phew!

Alright, I usually write a few blogs beforehand when ever I have time to do so and I haven’t had the chance lately.

I spent the last couple of days praying about some personal issues of mine currently going on in my life. I want God to help me not to remove my problems but to make me stronger for them. It’s not that I have big problems, it’s just that I don’t know how to deal with them.
I know what I logically need to do but my feelings tell me otherwise and for me to do what logic says is hard when feelings gets in the way.

Hakuna Matata right?

Looser - Over time

We spend 24 hours a day with ourselves and we tend to memorize our weaknesses rather than our strengths. The list of weaknesses grows over time because we get to know ourselves better.

During setbacks, we tend to get that list out and go over it. It’s more and more depressing to do so the further ahead we are in our lives which means that it’s increasingly important for us to learn how to cope with setbacks.
For someone, like me, who over think everything during setbacks it can be hard to let go. What I have to do is to make sure I eat right and exercises to exteriorize the pain. If I’m alone in my apt and I can feel a depressing moment coming, I take my car keys and go for a drive. Often, just going outside and feel the wind on my skin makes it go away.

Remember that the one thing you want to do (being alone) is also the worse thing that you can do. The devil works at his best when you’re alone.