Understanding Impulses help with Finances

“An impulse is a wish or urge, particularly a sudden one. It can be considered as a normal and fundamental part of human thought processes, but also one that can become problematic, as in a condition like obsessive-compulsive disorder.” -Wikipedia.org

Most problems can be fixed by learning to controlled impulses. I will only focus on the financial aspect of impulses.

Impulses is a little bit like brain washing yourself to think that you need an item. It can be to the point where you think you can’t be happy without it. You know you have an impulse when the feeling goes away as soon as you buy the item.
Advertisement are design to create such needs and, while it’s impossible to block all ads from entering our mind, we should minimize our exposure to them.

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Revision Wednesday
Blog post edited/re-posted on June 3, 2015

Our Deepest Fear …

Our deepest fear is not that we are
inadequate, our deepest fear is that we
are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that
most frightens us. We ask ourselves,
“Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous,
talented and fabulous?” Actually, who
are you NOT to be?
You are a child of God. Your playing
small does NOT serve the world. There
is nothing enlightened about shrinking
so that other people won’t feel insecure
around you.
We were born to manifest the glory
that is within us. And as we let our
light shine we unconsciously give other
people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own
fear, our presence automatically
liberates others.

Marianne Williamson

Business Idea

In Canada, a lot of nurses were layed off and hospitals are currently not hiring any more which means that a lot of experienced nurses are currently looking for work.

Someone could seize this opportunity by starting a nurse business in the private sector. You would first need to identify how many people need nurses at home and charge them X amount to have a nurse go to them. You then pay the nurses less than what you’ve charged to the client and keep the balance.

If you are a nurse, then do this for yourself.

Even if the government layed off all those nurses … doesn’t mean we suddenly don’t need them.

It’s Not The Burger-It’s the System

Some of you may have been contacted by someone who just joined this next big network marketing business. They may have done it in a way that made it sound like the product, or the pay plan, was the “next big thing” which is fine.

Products, or pay plan, doesn’t move itself. People move people that move products. The product does little in making anyone successful in network marketing.
Mcdonalds does great burgers but they’re not in business of selling burgers, they sell franchise (systems) that teaches 16 year olds how to make/sell burgers.

What is a system?
A system is training that helps newcomers with what to do next. In network marketing, the system should be able to support you from where ever you are to where ever you want to be.

The product and pay plan is amazing? Great! Now ask about the system.

Insanity

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results. Is an insane person aware that he’s insane? I don’t have to look far to see people who do the same thing over and over again expecting different result.

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Revision Wednesday
Blog post edited/re-posted on March 11, 2015

Don’t follow your heart

We have a tendency to only do things when “we feel like it”. We never really accomplish anything because of it.

Do you really think that a body builder felt like going to the gym every day? Do you really think that Stephen King felt like writing every day?

We can’t follow our heart, we have to lead it. We have to set ourselves some goals and have the discipline to follow them through.

I’m feeling down

Not doing the right things may not hurt you right away. It may not hurt you tomorrow or the day after tomorrow … but it will hurt you someday.

When you feel down, your body is trying to tell you something via your sub-conscience. Consider the bellow:

-Have I been to the gym to release stress?
-Have I eaten right?
-Have I made emotional purchases that I now regret?
-Have I fought with anybody lately?
-Have I slept enough?
-What constructive thing have I done recently to challenge myself?

If you’ve spotted something odd during your self analysis, try to fix it and see if it works for you. What other question would you ask yourself?

Qualities to look for in a partner

Before you decide to start a relationship with someone consider these points (the “she” will be used but this applies to a male partner as well):

Is she accepting of other people?
Having someone that is accepting of other people remove some pressure on yourself right from the start. If she’s not accepting it won’t work.
Why? Because those who are not accepting only see negative things about other people. They will brainwash themselves into thinking that you’re not for them. They will have a list of things that they don’t like about you.

Is she working on herself mentally?
This goes with the previous point. Those who work on themselves know how hard it is to change and will be less likely to ask for other people to change.
Nobody is perfect but everybody should thrive to become the best that they can be. Is she reading? Is she religious*? Is she following a lifelong education?

*Those who practice Christianity (maybe other religion as well) have a tendency to be harder on themselves than other people. Since they compare themselves to Jesus Christ (who IS perfect and accepting of other people), they will work hard to become better for God.

Is she taking care of herself?
It’s not about looking like a model. It’s about making yourself look your best for your partner. Taking care of yourself is a good way to show that you care about your partner. It includes grooming, personal hygiene, fitness, eating right ...etc

If she goes to the gym on a regular basis and eat right, her stress level will be lower which will reduce the amount of unnecessary arguments.
If she feels good, she will make other people feel good around her.

Is she going anywhere in life?
Struggles create bigger bonds. Having goals comes with struggles. If she doesn’t have goals then chances are it will end because there’s no excitement going on and the bonds are tinning. It’s important that you go through things and solve them together.

Fiat Money

Money used to be a representation of the amount of resources a Country had.

In the old times (before WW2) when a government needed more money, they had to raise the taxes. Doing so affected, in a negative way, their chances to get re-elected. To counter this, they started printing more money instead of playing with the taxes (They still do … In Canada, there’s a tax on a tax(?)). The thing is, it’s still a tax only this time it’s a bit more hidden.

The taxes allowed the population to check their government. Too much taxes made the people question where the money was going. Printing more money (AKA Fiat Money) is not talked about as much as a tax and often goes unnoticed because the negative effect only appears later.

The cost of living going up is often blame on the gas price going up. Why do you think the gas price went up in the first place?

To have a government to print money in order to help the population is counter productive. What we need is a government that will say “no” to some of our demands because we simply can’t afford it (That’s right, we’re not supposed to have everything we ever wanted).

Unfriend Me

Social media is supposed to bring people closer together but it’s actually driving them further apart. People are loosing track of what’s important and forgetting how to socialize properly with each other.

True friendship doesn’t come from “liking” someone else’s post sitting alone in your room. It’s not about texting other people while hanging out with someone.

Leave your phone at home, limit your time on social media devices and go get uncomfortable with people out there long enough for it to become comfortable again.

Leave your Cellphone

I’ve been told that we’re now in an age where social interaction is at it’s best. Cellphones now allow us to be in constant contacts with our friends through txt or facebook but are we really closer together?

There are some people who txt me all the time and when I’m around them; they txt other people. They never fully are with anybody because they’re distracted by their phone.

Maybe I’m old fashion but I find such behavior to be disrespectful and I’m sure I’m not the only one.

When hanging out with someone, leave your phone in the car or at home.

Relationships are Like Trees

Relationships are like trees. Have you ever saw two trees grown into one another? The spots where the trees touches could be translated to arguments within the relationship. It could of been painful at the time but in the end, it made the tree merge together even more.

Cut one of those trees and both of them will die.

Souls on fire with Attitude & Expectations

There’s a study that comes up in almost every book I read on Attitude. It’s a study made by Harvard psychologist Robert Rosenthal and San Francisco school principle Lenore Jacobson.

The study:

“...They [Robert Rosenthal/ Lenore Jacobson] asked the question: Do some children perform poorly in school because their teachers expect them to? If so, they surmised, raising the teacher’s expectations should raise the children performances as well. So a group of kindergarten through fifth-grade pupils was given a learning ability test and the next fall the new teachers were casually given the names of five or six children in the new class who were designated as “spurters” ; the test supposedly revealed that they had exceptional learning ability.
What the teachers did not know was that the test results had been rigged and that the names of these “spurters” had been chosen entirely at random. At the end of the school year, all the children were retested with some astonishing results. The pupils whom the teachers thought had most potential had actually scored far ahead, and had gained as many as 15 to 27 I.Q. points. The teachers described these children as happier, more curious, more affectionate than average, and having a better chance of success in later life. The only change for the year was the change in attitudes of the teachers. Because they had been led to expect more of certain students, those children came to expect more of themselves. “The explanation probably lies in the subtle interaction between teacher and pupils,” speculates Rosenthal. “Tone of voice, facial expressions, touch and posture may be the means by which often unwittingly-teachers communicate their expectations to their pupils. Such communication may help a child by changing his perceptions of himself.”

-Page 32/33 of “Bringing out the best in people” book by author Alan Loy Mcginnis

The study suggest that your expectation determines your attitude towards that person. Expectations can either bring the best out of people or the worse out of them. Expect the good out of everybody.

You Make 3 to 4 Time What They Pay You

When ever a company does business with a client, who ever works on the project is being paid half (in most cases) of what the company charges the client. Which means that if you’re paid 30 000 a year to do a job, the company who hired you makes 60 000 a year on you.

If a client invest 60 000 on you … don’t you think he expects to make a lot more out of the work you’re doing?

Wrong definition of Mastery of Self

I read something recently that made me re-think my philosophy on feelings and the mastery of self. I used to believe that Mastery of Self meant to control how we feel, which implied not only suppressing feelings on the spot but creating new ones as well.

Chuck Goetschel in his “Simon Says” book stated:

“...Part of the process of discovering your Life Purpose has to do with being in touch with your feelings. Your feelings are clue to what your life purpose is all about. By noticing how you feel about things, you’ll discover what you value and what you don’t. Things that don’t trigger much emotion probably aren’t tied to your purpose or the application of it - at least for now....”

If there would be a way for us to control our feelings, we would never discover our life purpose. The Mastery of Self isn’t about controlling our feelings, it’s about controlling our actions. Doing things because it’s the right thing to do despite of how we feel about it. We go to the gym even if we don’t feel like it because it’s the right thing to do. We eat a salad instead of a pizza because it’s the right thing to do …

Simply put, the mastery of self is the discipline to do the right things despite of how we feel about them.

Then and Now of Love

It seems to take longer for people to find a mate theses days and I wonder if it’s in part due to people not being able to accept each other as much as they used to.

They say that times have change but do people live more fulfilling lives now or was it the case before?

If something wasn’t broken … then why change it?

Figuring Things Out

I strongly believe that we were put here to figure things out about life and it's even more so when we're living with someone. 2 heads are really better than one and the lessons learned in a relationship aren't the same as the one when we're single.

We learn the most about ourselves by observing others.

Any thoughts?

Not a Fan of "Small Talk"

Most of you know that I’m not a fan of “small talk. We were not put on this earth to repeat "Hi how are you" billions of times. We're here to figure things out, everything is a test where you can only fail if you don't learn from your mistakes.

In life, lessons are repeated until they're learned. You learn the most during set-backs.
After life slaps you through the face (such as a break-up, bankruptcy ...etc) we usually,naturally, go on a period of self-analysis. We go over everything in our minds to try to figure out what we did good, bad or could of done better.

The past should only be revisited for self-growth purposes (in a positive manner). It's not meant to bring us down only to help us move forward better.
Rocky says it best "Life is not about how hard you can hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward." Thomas Edison said "I did not fail 10 000 times. I found 10 000 ways that doesn't work."

Keep moving forward.

Hollywood Love

Hollywood does tend to "pretty up" things when it comes to love. Most of it is sunshine and rainbows to them when really it's a freaking war fought within.

Most lost what love truly means. It's not about finding the perfect person it's about learning to love an imperfect person perfectly.

Love, the feeling, is like happiness ... it comes and goes. Nobody else but yourself is responsible to find the love for your partner. Of course, your partner should do things that will help in that sense but at the end of the day it's your responsibility since it's your feeling.

Feelings are what allows us to understand each other. If you give away the responsibility of your feelings to someone else then, I think, you're missing out on the core purpose of life which is the mastery of self.

Growing Up

When looking back in my teen years, or kid years, I see a very shaky individual and a thing that I acquired over the years is a little bit of self control. It’s getting better and better the older I get.

I think it’s the result of finding out who we are. I would of found out who I was sooner if I would of been expose to more intense situation.

Fear, pain and sorrow has a tendency to reveal to us who we truly are.