Wednesday, July 31, 2024

Respect the Weights

A few years ago, I was working out with a guy who's philosophy was to lift as heavy as possible - all the time and he ended up being pain.
The internet is full of people who got injured at the gym. There are ways to minimize the risk of injuries while working out. The below are things to consider when lifting weights:

  • No ego lifting - Don't lift more than you can comfortably lift unless you have a spotter or are using a machine with safety features.
  • Lift weights using proper posture.
  • Lift with your knees.
  • Understand 10lbs can be the difference between a good or a bad posture.
  • You need a diet that supports the workout.
  • Don't overdo it.
  • The only person you're competing against is you.
  • Don't underestimate the importance of sleep and recovery period.
  • Use belts/harness/support when appropriate.
Respect the weights essentially means to pay attention to what you're doing with them. Focus on what you're doing while you're at the gym.

Be safe while working out!

Wednesday, July 24, 2024

Merchandising Rebel Movements

When I was younger, the Punk lifestyle was considered a way to "rebel" against the system. With age, I came to see these movements as nothing more than a way to sell merchandise to young minds. 

When joining these groups, we get a sense of belonging or fighting for a cause that is believed, by the group at least, to be a worthy one. Let's not deceive ourselves, however, as most of these movements are nothing more than channels created to sell - some artists livelihood depends on it.

This isn't to say that there's something wrong with these strategies but we must recognize them for what they are.

Wednesday, July 17, 2024

Midlife Crisis


I'm currently experiencing the sort of melancholy that is typically experience by those, like me, that are near their 40th birthday. In movies, this is a period typically associated with a big purchase such as a sport car or a motorcycle but I've had no such desires.

My experience with midlife crisis has been one where I think more of death whether it be mine or my friends/family. If I do manage to reach old age, I wonder what sort of problems awaits me. Will I suffer from dementia? Will have knee or back problems? Will I be a grumpy old man?
Family gathering have taken on a new meaning as I'm left wondering if it'll be the last time where we will be able to all gather in the same room. Every year, we seem to loose a few members. How many more family gathering do we have left? Will we know when we've had our last one?

It's increasingly difficult for me to spend time on things that doesn't matter as there's a greater sense of urgency to everything I do. The feeling of invincibility I had in my youth is no more - there's a definite sense that life is finite. 

When we're young, life gives us everything and slowly takes it all away as we get older.

Change is inevitable.


Wednesday, July 10, 2024

Being Happy To Give Happy

There's a saying that says that you can't give what you don't have which is also true in the case of happiness. In the words of Les Giblin, from his book "How to have confidence and power in dealing with people";

"For many years, we have assumed that if we attempted to satisfy our own desires for success and happiness, we would of necessity deprive some other person of satisfying his own wants. But the evidence all points in the other direction.
A happy human being is more likely to spread happiness than an unhappy human being. A prosperous human being is more likely to benefit those with whom he deals than is a chronic failure. A person who has reasonably satisfied his own desires is much more generous and considerate in taking into account the desires of others than is a person whose every desire has been frustrated.
Psychologists, criminologists, ministers, and now even doctors tell us that most of the trouble and misery in this world is caused by unhappy people. They tell us that by making yourself miserable and frustrated, you are doing other people the greatest disservice you could possibly devise.”

The following are things that we can do in order to help with our happiness:

  • Sleep - This is likely the most important thing you can do. Lack of sleep, over a period of time, can be detrimental to our overall health including our happiness.
  • Exercise -  Working out is a good way to get rid of the stress we've accumulated.
  • Diet - Eating properly helps with our overall well-being.
  • Volunteer -  Feeling useful can help with our happiness.
  • Meditation/Reading - Getting into the right mindset can help with our happiness.
  • Removing Negativity - Are you watching too much negative news? Are you hanging out with people that are always negative? Limiting your exposure to these can help with morale.
  • Hangout with Friends - Being around good people can help alleviate the burdens of life.
  • Financial Stability - Being excessively in debt adds stress to life hence why it's important, for our happiness, to be financially responsible.
  • Buy Less Things - Happiness isn't found in things and usually the less things we have, and the more we realize that we don't actually need all those things, the happier we get.
  • Go Outside - Don't underestimate the power of a good hike in nature on a sunny day.
  • Have Goals - Having a goal, or a purpose, can add some excitement to your life and help with happiness.

Pleasure doesn't bring happiness...

It's important not to confuse pleasure with happiness. Orrin Woodward said "Pleasure does not bring happiness; it only brings an increasing hunger for more pleasure." Whether it be alcohol/drugs, endless entertainment (or other)... these things are nothing but traps that we fall into as a way to escape the problems of life.


Be happy to give happy.

Wednesday, July 3, 2024

The Purpose of Relationship Books


I recently had a chat with someone who had read relationship books, such as the "5 love languages" by Gary Chapman, and was using what she had learned to distance herself from other potential mates. In her mind, if the man didn't share the same love language it meant that the relationship wouldn't work out.

This isn't the purpose of relationship books...

Gary Chapman didn't write a book on love languages for you to weed out those that doesn't share the same love languages as you. He wrote the book in order for you to be aware of the differences in love languages and the importance of learning to speak each other's love language.

On paper, it's true that relationship with someone that has the same love language as you should be easier... but also limiting you to a smaller pool of potential partners. Other characteristics needs to be considered. If someone is abusive, but speak the same love language as you, it doesn't mean that you should be in a relationship with that person.

Relationship books exist to help people have more meaningful connections with each other.
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